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DinoNerd's avatar

My totally biased guess about the correlation with political viewpoints:

1) a large chunk of people who also tend right wing will consider it their duty to "fix" their straying friend or family member. They'd much rather preach at their sinning family member, or punish them, than cut them off. (The well publicized tendency to expel and shun gay offspring - especially prominent some decades ago -would seem to directly contradict this, but I'm guessing the numbers were smaller than the chronic attempts at re-conversion.)

2) the idea of cutting off "toxic" people and "toxic" relationships seems to be encouraged in therapy culture (not necc. the same as by actual therapists). It's especially supported in all kinds of support groups for people with various problems. Possibly this comes originally from advice commonly given to those dealing with addicts - they are commonly advised that you can't help the addict in your life; all you can do is farther enable their addiction.

So when the "relationship" degenerates towards an end state of fighting about politics - or worse, fighting about whether or not the person on the left is some kind of sinner, needing to repent - the one on the left is more likely to pull the plug.

No data to support this except anecdata, from observing the large number of queers and ex-Christians among my acquaintances.

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dfkjgshdtvjksl's avatar

I don't think people call it "cancelling" when its just one person deciding to cut contact with another, cancelling has always implied a mob to me. Strange wording choice.

Anyway, I do question a little how much can really be learned from dividing this into cutting off vs. being cut off. For example, take a scenario where a queer person comes out or begins to make queer lifestyle decisions (marriage etc), and then conservative family members react with sustained disapproval and hostility. Regardless of whether the final action of cutting off was initiated by the queer person ("I cant take this anymore") or by the other family members ("You're no longer allowed around my children"), it seems that the arrow of causation still points the same way. Maybe both parties would disagree about which cut the other off, or whether an example like this counts as being cut off "over politics".

I think when it comes to personal values, we could guess that for example liberal people are more likely to see cutting off a family member as the appropriate response to the tensions in a relationship, but that doesn't necessarily tell us much about the interpersonal family dynamics that actually lead to people cutting one another off, and by extension your likelihood of being cut off by or cutting off a family member in the future.

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